What makes a person horrible? Is it the way he or she acts, speaks, or makes decisions? Can a person admittedly be a horrible person? I wholeheartedly believe that this blog post will do great justice to the topic. The unfavorable fragments that compose a horrible person are commonly found in many of us and in the best of us, so does that mean that humanity is doomed and the end is near? Absolutely not! It only means that we’re all human beings prone to the same mistakes generation after generation and all it takes is a bit of mental work to correct the flaws that have been handed down to us.
One thing is certainly certain and that is that life is going to go on whether we decide to better ourselves or not, so we might as well better ourselves while life pushes us through time. Why be a horrible person when you could be a person who is personally developed, highly motivated, and extremely dedicated to always going further in life? Marianne Williamson put it best in her poem Our Greatest Fear when she wrote, “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Essentially, we are sometimes our biggest enemy, and this I know rather well from experience.
Here are the top five telltale signs of a horrible person:
- You Take Shit Personally — One thing that I’ve learned from living is that many people, even those who are closest to you, will say and do things that will not be in your favor, whether it’s because they have their own problems to handle that they’re not handling very well or because they’re merely being jerks who lack the adequate mindfulness to be empathetic toward another person. Countless people have said or have done things that have annoyed me or hurt me to the maximum, but I am still here and I am still making life work for me, so in the big picture, they really do not matter and this is something that we must all understand. If someone does not treat you right, then shame on their character, just keep moving on and keep on achieving.
- Appearance Matters Too Much – It is perfectly valid to want to look good and give others a good impression of who you are, but a line must drawn somewhere. If you’re a person who gets stressed out over which clothes you’re going to wear for the day, then appearance is definitely playing too great a role in your life. Dressing up and looking nice is essential one’s success in many cases, but don’t let appearance overtake you to the point where you have a mental breakdown over the clothes you are going to wear for the day. I’ve come to learn that being self-confident about the looks of yourself and of your clothes can go a very, very long way.
- You Are Overly Assertive — Being assertive is a good trait to have because it will allow you to communicate well with others and get your needs met more often than those who are not assertive, but the line must not be crossed because people who are overly assertive can be very unpleasant to be around. You don’t have to share with others every little thought of criticism that goes through your mind because people will surely get tired of you for it. If something is substantially bothering you, then by all means be assertive about your problem, but don’t nag people.
- You Take No Breaks — Those who know me well will be the first to tell you that I value a high work ethic as I have one myself, especially when I exercise, however, your body needs a break. Don’t overwork yourself in academics, athletics, your career, or whatever it may be because it will only have its negative effects on your mood and on your daily performance. If you’re a super athletic person like me and you like to exercise seven days a week, then do yourself a huge favor and take one or two days off so your body can recover. Anything that is done too little or in excess is bad because there has to be a balance.
- You Are Not True To Yourself — This is probably the most important factor out of this entire list. Staying true to yourself and what you really want from life is so essential to leading a life that you can be satisfied with right now. Lying to yourself will get you absolutely no where as lying to yourself is much like being on a treadmill; you’re giving your body the physical experience of traveling, but in actuality, you are not going anywhere. There can be no genuine happiness unless one is true to oneself.